Attitude is Everything
There is a lot going on in our world that we have every right to be upset about. We’ve been stuck in our homes for weeks. People are sick. People are dying. Some have lost their job. Some lost their retirement savings. Others wonder how they’re going to feed their children this week. You’ve heard the saying, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” That’s easier said than done sometimes, however, I have learned that attitude is everything.
I have a client who is retired and on a fixed income. She wanted to sell her house and move to sunny Florida. Before everyone was quarantined, we got a contract on her house. Right before closing, the deal fell through. She had her house packed up, was closing on a new house in Florida and had everything lined up. Guess who was more upset about it all? ME! Don’t get me wrong. She was disappointed but she took it all in stride and was an emotional trooper.
She was deciding as to whether she should just unpack and stay in her house. She is in a high-risk category and wanted to stay safe and healthy. Having people in her home was a bit disconcerting. But, I had a feeling we would get another Buyer very quickly so she decided to move forward with selling and show the property. It only took one more showing before we got another contract. Yay! Things were looking up and after the heartache of the last deal, we both needed some good news. That Buyer seemed solid but my client had valid fears of job loss, furlough or income reduction since there were so many uncertainties during that time. Things moved along smoothly. We were just waiting for the appraiser to contact us. We reached out many times and used various modes of communication but never heard from them. Were they waiving the appraisal? Were they going to do a “drive-by?” We were getting antsy. Finally, we heard that the appraisal had been received by the lender. Great! The appraiser must have just used public information to gather his findings since no one had spoken with him. My client was thrilled and through the stress and anxiety, always had a positive attitude.
The appraiser valued the property lower than the contract price – and it was 4 days before closing. I frantically looked over the appraisal and realized that we had many valid reasons as to why the value should be increased. So we went to work trying to get the appraiser to change his report. At first, he responded then went MIA. My client lost the house in Florida she was going to purchase when the last Buyer walked away so she was planning to rent an apartment in Florida for a while. The manager agreed to hold the unit with no deposit until our closing date given the situation but that date was quickly approaching and they were not going to hold it any longer. Again, my client took the high road and decided that even though we felt like her property was worth more, she would take a “loss” so we could close and she wouldn’t lose her apartment. 30 minutes later I received a call that the Universe was rewarding her. The appraiser had revised his appraisal for the full contract price value.
That story could have ended up much worse. But I am convinced that her attitude would have been the same. We can’t always control our circumstances but we can always control our attitude. When we focus on the negative, we get more of it. If we do our best to keep a positive attitude, life is not only easier but it’s more enjoyable. Next time you look around you and see chaos, upheaval, uncertainty and disappointments, stop and check your attitude. And though, again, sometimes it’s easier said than done, perhaps it won’t be as hard as it seems.
Michelle Froedge is a residential Realtor and Principal Broker in the Greater Nashville and Williamson County areas of Tennessee. “Mom” to four-legged fur baby, Tyler, Auntie to Zelamie, she is a vegetarian and sings in her spare time. Michelle has lived in Nashville and Franklin since 1997 and has been selling homes since 2004.