How to Kill Your Dreams

How to Kill Your Dreams

  Have you ever lost something, looked for it for hours, days, maybe even months, and only after you’d given up, you find it? You swear you had looked there a million times, but somehow, it just appeared. Or, have you ever wanted something so badly, you put all your thought and energy into it, you spent what may have felt like, or actually have been years, manifesting it and it didn’t happen? Until you stopped trying. Doesn’t make sense, does it? Well, actually it does. Often times we cling to tightly to outcomes. We panic. Our minds go into overdrive. We get anxious and worried. We start to allow negative thoughts to take over. Before we know it, we become obsessed and we believe we will never have it or accomplish it and we basically give up. We go about our life and just forget about it. What happens with manifestation is that we focus on something but then we have to give our intentions over and just go about our life. Yes, we should take inspired action. But when we become obsessed, it doesn’t do anyone any good. Sometimes we may get what we desire but we have probably driven ourselves and possibly everyone around us crazy and perhaps lost some other things in the process. We have to learn to let go. And, believe me, I am preaching to the choir here. I want to see it happen. I want to “make” it happen. We hear this so often. But when we realize that the Universe is conspiring with us to make our dreams come true, to grant us our desires, all we have to do is ask and forget about it. Relax into the knowing that it will happen if/when it is right for us. One of my coaches explains that it is like an umbilical cord. What happens when the flow is restricted? Yeah, emergency. Not good. Death could occur. The same thing can happen with our dreams. We can want it so badly that we hold tight. We try to control it. We are immensely attached to the outcome. We are killing the very thing we want so badly. Breathe. Loosen your grip and just be. Go about your life. Watch for open doors and opportunities but don’t force them. Align yourself with people and resources that would be helpful but don’t be obsessive. Walk your path. Continue your journey. Allow the right information to be revealed. You may even find that you change your vision along the way. We can think we want one thing but once we have researched a bit more or gain a bit more insight, we shift our...

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Find Your Rhythm

Find Your Rhythm

  Do you love music but feel awkward dancing in public? Are you one of those people who clap on 1 and 3? Do you even know what I’m talking about? Haha It’s kind of a musician joke. Rhythm when it comes to music is both technical and it’s also a feeling. Some people naturally feel it and some people just don’t hear it. The great thing about rhythm as it relates to your life, is that, you can find it, no matter what your talent, abilities, education, or social status. Your rhythm is all about finding who you are and then living that to the fullest. Have you ever felt (maybe you’re feeling it now) that you didn’t really fit in? That you feel like there has to be more to life than what you’re currently experiencing? That you have so much to be grateful for – so much abundance – but are still not satisfied? Do you have a general sense of discontent or unfulfillment? I get it. I’ve been there. If we are a conscious being, we are constantly growing and learning. This can bring us to the awareness that we are NOT where we want to be. It can shed light on the things we are unhappy with and if we don’t have the right tools, we stay there. In the discontent. In the mediocrity. But we don’t have to. Here are some tips for getting out of the dark:   Get moving. Literally get up and move. Take a walk. Exercise. Jump up and down. Get your body and your energy moving. Have you ever watched kids playing on a playground? Albeit there may be the occasional argument as they learn the lessons of life, they are happy. They are smiling. They are having fun. That’s because getting your body moving helps move negative energy out and bring positivity in. Meditate or pray. This doesn’t have to be mystical. This can simply be sitting with your thoughts and setting the intention for quiet or that your purpose be revealed. I meditate every single day. I’m not always the zen-like creature I would like to be, but it certainly helps because I have made it a habit. Dream Big! Remember when you were a kid and you imagined you could fly when your wore your cape? Or you played with dolls or action figures and made them talk? Allow yourself to go there now. Let your imagination run wild. Like when someone asks you what you would do if you won the lottery. Dream of all the things you would do if you had no limitations. Take inspired action. All those things that came to...

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3 Things a Year of Pandemic Taught Me

3 Things a Year of Pandemic Taught Me

  Can you believe it’s been one year since life as we knew it was changed, possibly forever? COVID-19 turned a quick trip to the grocery store into something we thought twice about. Do we really need bread? Will they have toilet paper? I better get there right when the delivery truck arrives. The list could go on. I am sure we all learned many things this past year. Here are my top 3:   I am SO blessed. There are so many reasons for this. I knew it long before the pandemic struck, however, I am more aware of it on a daily basis. I am grateful for so many more things. I don’t take for granted the things I once did. I appreciate human interaction. A simple dinner at a restaurant is a special treat. My closet is full of clothes that I haven’t worn in a year. I am spoiled to be able to order something online and have it show up at my door within a day or two. Without as many outside distractions, nature shows its beauty in glorious ways.   Time is precious. In any hardship or inconvenience, there is something that can be learned if you look for it. We lost two beloved pets this past year. The loss is felt every day. But because we were “stuck” at home, we were able to spend so much more time with them, loving and caring for them, snuggling and holding them than we would have if we had been in our old routine. I had been running late for a gig and my fiancé asked me to come by his shop because he missed me. Normally I would have told him I would just see him when I got home since it was out of my way and I really didn’t have the extra time. You know what I did? I drove the 10 extra minutes there and backtracked, adding 20 minutes to my trip just so I could get a kiss and see my man in person before I went to work. There is nothing more important than love and no one will get me to believe differently.   Where there’s a will… You know the rest of the saying. “How will children go to school if they can’t leave the house?” “How will I do my job if I can’t go to my office?” “We had a trip planned. What now?” Creativity, ingenuity, will. All of these kicked into high gear this year. We learned to think outside the box. “Can’t” seemed to go out the window. Technology took a front seat. Parents banned together to figure out ways to supervise...

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Dream BIGGER!

Dream BIGGER!

  When I was a kid I would daydream all the time. I had a huge imagination. Then I went through a “get my shit together” phase and I slowly stopped daydreaming. The only thing I was imagining was excuses and not hitting my goals. Fast forward. I made a major change in my life because I started daydreaming again. I started imagining a different life. Guess what? I have a different life. Most recently, I allowed myself to act on the daydream that was in my soul for many years. And I turned it into a new business. You don’t have to watch or listen to young children for very long to hear the stories they make up. They have wild imaginations. You know why? Because in their mind, anything is possible. Parents even tell them that. So, what happens? Society and even sometimes, our own family starts to tell us that there are limits. We can only do that if we went to a certain college. We can only have that if we make a certain amount of money. We can only be that if we look a certain way. WRONG!!! Stop giving yourself permission for the excuses. In the world of real estate, if you want to own a house – do it! Will it be the mansion on the hill as a first-time home buyer? Maybe not. But that doesn’t mean you can own a house. And, it doesn’t mean that the mansion on the hill won’t ever be yours. Think you don’t have enough money? Think about this. The average rent in Nashville TN is $1399/month for an apartment less than 1000 square feet. You know what else is $1399/month? The mortgage payment on a $344,000 house larger than 1000 square feet. (Obviously, there are some variables here, but you get the idea.) As a Realtor® I have many resources to help with credit and special financing. We have lenders that are true miracle workers. Stop telling yourself you can’t afford it. If you want it badly enough, you will find a way. What are you spending money now that isn’t necessary? Make a budget. Think there isn’t any inventory? We have ways of finding houses that are not on the market yet. As a Realtor, I have heard all sorts of stories and a lot of excuses. As a life coach, I have heard all sorts of stories and a lot of excuses. Dreams take time to manifest. You have to work toward making them happen. But if you don’t start today, you can guarantee it won’t happen tomorrow. So, give yourself permission to daydream and DREAM BIGGER!  ...

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Dream On

Dream On

  If you know me on the surface or know me well, chances are you know that I am an Aerosmith fan. If you didn’t know that, well, you’re about to find out how much. I named my dogs Tyler and Livvie. I have albums, books, photos, paintings, drawings, memorabilia. The list goes on. One thing you can recognize me by is my license plate that says “Dream On”. It’s written a little differently but you get the idea. It’s my favorite song. And, it’s one of my favorite things to do. To dream. When I was a child I had an imaginary friend. I played with dolls and made them have full on conversations. Barbies fought with each other (I guess their dream house wasn’t quite good enough for them), and I spent literal hours just daydreaming. What do you dream about? Do you dream about winning the lottery? Or living on a tropical island? Do you dream of the relationships you want to have or the job you wish you had? You may dream of home ownership. (That is something I can certainly help you with.) Whether you dream while you’re awake or dream while you’re asleep, allow yourself to go there. Allow yourself to dream about what it would be like to have your dream home. Where is it? What does it look like? How big or small is it? What state is it in? Are there mountains, or trees, or water? Is it private or in the middle of a bustling city? When you allow yourself to dream and actually feel how it would feel to have that dream, your dreams begin to take shape and become reality. I speak from experience. Let’s go back to Aerosmith (please). I had been dreaming for years about meeting Steven Tyler. I would visualize it and tell stories about how it was going to happen. I honestly believed it. I felt it. I had some amazing experiences of concert adventures. Steven even talked to me on the microphone from stage at a show in Nashville. Steven bought a house in Nashville and friends would text me pictures when they saw him around town. I never ran into him but I still had the dream. Fast forward to September of 2019. I scored front row seats to see Aerosmith in Las Vegas. Being so close to the action was incredible. The show was coming to an end, the band walked to the front of the stage and introduced each other and the crew. Then it happened. Steven walked toward me. My now fiance pushed me up to help me sit on the edge of the stage. What happened next...

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