Living in the Moment – Huh?

Living in the Moment – Huh?

If you’re in this world today, you have heard the term “living in the moment.” It sounds good and a little woo-woo, but what does it actually mean and how do we do it? I will break it down as I have channeled it and how it was given to me. The Past: We have lived many years on this planet, even many lifetimes. We have loved. We have lost. We have succeeded. We have failed. We have experienced joy. We have experienced regret. Our past doesn’t just get erased from our brains. So, what do we do with it? We learn. We learn what we want more of. We learn what we don’t want any longer. We learn what worked and what didn’t. We learn how to treat ourselves and others. We learn that we can use our experiences to grow in a positive way. To expand our current experience into something we are proud of and happy in. But what happens when we “live in the past?” We tend to become disheartened, sad, remorseful, even depressed. Either because the positive experiences we had are not our current reality or we live in regret because of choices we made that we wish we hadn’t. Either way, we are right that our past shapes our current reality. Every present moment of now is the next moment’s past. Therefore, when we focus on what it is we desire as our reality, it will shape our present and be brought into our future reality. The Future: Most of us have goals, aspirations and dreams. We have plans for our career. We aspire to certain levels of success. We may dream of a certain relationship, income level or lifestyle. It’s good to focus on what we want to create for ourselves. It serves us well to envision the life we want to live in detail so the Universe hears our heart. This is a very important step in manifesting. The more specific we are about what it is that we want, the more energy flows to that desire and the quicker we become a vibrational match for it. These are all necessary practices to create the life we desire, however, what happens when we “live in the future?” We don’t get anything done! We are distracted. We sit and dream. We may get excited about the dream we envision but we can also get impatient and frustrated that it isn’t in our physical reality yet. We do want to focus on what’s not here yet in order to manifest a new reality, however, we have to do more than just dream about it. That’s where the present comes in. The Present: This...

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Dr. Doctor, Give me the News

Dr. Doctor, Give me the News

I recently had a very intelligent conversation with a highly educated friend. We were discussing the differences between pharmaceutical doctors, holistic practitioners, and spiritual healers. The interesting commonality was not what one might expect. Not all of them want to heal people, just like not all people want to be healed. You might question why someone who goes to a doctor would not want to be healed. The answer is, it is hard. “What?” you might ask. It’s not hard to take a pill or get a therapy and walk away without the physical malady. Well, while this might be true, in most cases, it doesn’t actually eradicate the issue. It’s simply masks it, puts a Band-Aid on it, or suppresses it for a time. In a lot of cases, the issue returns. Have you ever wondered why people can go through very invasive cancer treatments, they are “cancer free” for years and then have it return to their body? The answer is, there is responsibility on the individual to make changes. Not all of those changes are physical, however, and often get overlooked. How can a seemingly picture of health person drop dead? The answer is, they weren’t healthy and it may not have had anything to do with their physical health. Have I blown your mind yet or have you stopped reading? If you are still here, I’m grateful. Not because you are reading what I wrote, but because you have some sort of interest in the topic at hand, which likely means you may believe or have questioned whether all physical ailments are actually able to be healed by medicine alone. You see, if you have followed me for any time at all, you know how much emphasis I give on mindset, beliefs, and inner work. I do believe that most – yes, I said MOST – of our physical chronic illnesses, diseases and conditions are brought on by us. Yep. Oh boy, this is getting controversial. Are you still here? Our minds are VERY powerful. We don’t truly even know what it is capable of – what we are capable of. A lot of people can get behind this thought but it’s typically in the context of the good that we can do for ourselves and others – our potential in a positive aspect. But isn’t the opposite, then, true? Most people don’t enjoy being sick. They don’t wish for illness to befall them. And when it does happen, the majority of Americans go to the drug store or the doctor. If the issue is more than what a simple medicine can “cure,” there may be a treatment program, a surgery, a physical therapy regimen,...

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New Year, New You – 3 Rules for Sticking to Your Resolutions

New Year, New You – 3 Rules for Sticking to Your Resolutions

  OK, raise your hand if you made resolutions, set goals or created a vision board for 2022. Now raise your hand if you have already “messed up”. Don’t feel bad. Our society puts so much emphasis on starting over or starting something new on January 1 that it’s hard not to get sucked into the hype. It may not have even been your intent to start a new fad diet, jump into a new exercise routine, buy a new car or set an outrageous sales goal. What if you looked at it in a different way? What if, by not following the crowd, you are actually standing out? Here’s what I mean: How about on a random Tuesday, after you ate your third cookie and felt like crap, you decided. You decided you didn’t want to feel like crap anymore. You decided that the pain of the feeling that way was stronger than your desire to eat another cookie. Guess what? You would have a much better chance of losing the weight or sticking to the exercise regimen. Or how you’re having a conversation with your best friend and they tell you their father is ill and they wish they could take one last family trip with him and pay for everything themselves. I bet that would give them the motivation to hit sales numbers they never would have dreamt were possible. Why is this? The answer is in the question. Why. But it goes deeper than that. Yes, you need to have a reason for doing it that you resonate with – not just because it’s a new year and you can wipe the proverbial slate clean. But the reason is often times not enough either. You have to “feel” the result. How are you going to feel when you’re eating healthier foods, lost the 15 pounds, and are stronger and more flexible than you are now? You will probably feel more attractive, more confident, lighter, and have more energy. You may even be able to participate in activities you have long since thought were in your past. How would that make you feel? And how would your friend feel having been able to take their family on, literally, a trip of a lifetime with their father before he passed? The memories that would be made, the quality time that would be spent. The food would taste better, the laughs would be larger, the conversations deeper. Those would be things they would carry with them forever. Lastly, messing up doesn’t mean giving up. You will mess up. You will be at a birthday party and really want a piece of German chocolate cake with coconut frosting. Or,...

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Protecting Your Energy

Protecting Your Energy

  This time of year often comes with invitations, obligations, and a to-do list longer than a 5-year-old’s wish list. That also means stress and overwhelm. We may want to do everything and go everywhere, but is that realistic? Here are some tips:   Use a Calendar. Look at the month. How many days/nights can you realistically attend events? Block off work, time for self and rest, errands & personal to-do’s, and then decide which events, family functions, etc. you will attend. Prioritize invites. What are the events that you really WANT to go to. Just because you’ve ALWAYS had pajama night at Aunt Betty’s house on Christmas Eve doesn’t mean you have to go. One of the great freedoms of being an adult is making your own decisions. It may not be the popular choice but if it’s right for you, then it’s a good one. Decline with Grace. You may be left feeling guilty for not attending Aunt Betty’s PJ party and that’s understandable. If you feel it necessary, send a gift in lieu of attending. Flowers, edible treats or something for the home is a nice way of showing your appreciation without having to attend in person. Go Online. Make a list of everyone or everything you need to purchase (including hosts). Then sit down (at a previously scheduled time – see item #1) with snacks and a beverage and shop. Most retailers have good prices and special deals now. Some stores will gift wrap items for you, too. And best of all, you can have things shipped directly to the receiver to save you even more time. Have fun. The bottom line is this season should be fun. Enjoy the time with family and friends. You may be missing someone special this year and it’s beautiful to pay respects to their memory and also do your best to smile and create happy memories with those that surround you at this time.   If you are interested in more in-depth tips that I used daily, join my FREE MASTERCLASS here. If you can’t be there live, I will send you the...

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Being Grateful

Being Grateful

  We are coming into a season where more people are focused on giving thanks. What does it mean when we say, “thank you?” To me, it means that I am grateful for the person, the act, or the situation. It shows appreciation. When we are giving thanks, we are projecting an attitude of gratefulness. When we live in gratefulness, we open ourselves up to receive more to be grateful for. In this way, when we are grateful or thankful, we see more in our lives that we are grateful for. It may seem magical or mystical, but as the law of attraction depicts, like attracts like. What we focus on grows, so focusing on being grateful makes us more grateful and, intern, we see more things around us to be grateful and thankful for.   What are you thankful or grateful for? As we enter this season of thankfulness, I challenge you to be more aware of your creation and blessings. Sometime ago, I began a daily practice of writing a list of things I am grateful for. They range anywhere from people and animals to physical and material things, as well as lessons, opportunities and emotions. I find myself smiling as I make my list each day. It truly brings my heart joy as I reflect on all of the things I have and I am experiencing. People have questioned me as to how we can be grateful when bad things happen. I believe there is always good in every situation. There is a lesson or an opportunity for growth. When we focus on those things and are thankful for them, our attitude shifts. As this happens, we realize there is good in everything. If we change our mindset to see through the darkness, we will see the light. Try this practice for one week and see how you feel. Reflect back and see if your focus changes. Notice if you have, suddenly, more to be grateful for in your life.   I am grateful for my gifts and talents and I am thankful I can share them with...

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What Are You Scared Of?

What Are You Scared Of?

    We are entering the spooky season. Halloween can be spooky, with all the tales of witches and spells, (which can be very real, btw!) black cats and superstitions. The air is cooling, and there is much more darkness. Spider webs abound and heaviness of air, clothing and food is prevalent. There are haunted houses, Vincent Price, and Jason. Pumpkin spice has been visible since August and that is definitely scary!! As scary as it can be, it can also be a lot of fun. Bonfires, reading a book in front of the fireplace, s’mores, pumpkin carving and chili are at the top of my list. In our lives, there are many things we could be afraid of. We could be scared about the economy. The state of the earth for our children’s future could scare us. Illness and accidents can be scary. We can be scared of a lot of different social, political, and physical issues. The thing that I see most people being scared of, however, is personal change. Looking deep within ourselves and seeing the depths can be very scary. But, it can also be a lot of fun. I know, it may sound strange to think that seeing our “ugliness” can be fun, but hear me out. First of all, it’s already part of you so you really don’t need to be scared to see it. Secondly, when you face it, you then get to make a decision. You can leave it alone, or make a change. So, just because you see it, doesn’t mean you necessarily have to do anything about it (free will), it just means you are aware of it. For instance, if you take a gander and notice that you are judgmental, you can choose to work on it – there is a process but I will keep things simple – or you can choose to continue being judgmental. If you choose to make changes, you will see positive impacts in other areas of your life as well. If you choose to ignore it or stay judgmental, likely nothing in your life will change by you doing so. Another example would be, if you admit to yourself that you are in a toxic relationship, you can choose to stay in the relationship and keep living like you’re living, or you can choose to change the dynamic or stay away from the person altogether and likely see drastic changes in many other areas as well. In this way, doing inner work can be scary but the fun part comes in with the awareness and changes. It’s hard to heal or change things we don’t know about. If we have a silent...

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