How to Kill Your Dreams
Have you ever lost something, looked for it for hours, days, maybe even months, and only after you’d given up, you find it? You swear you had looked there a million times, but somehow, it just appeared.
Or, have you ever wanted something so badly, you put all your thought and energy into it, you spent what may have felt like, or actually have been years, manifesting it and it didn’t happen? Until you stopped trying.
Doesn’t make sense, does it? Well, actually it does. Often times we cling to tightly to outcomes. We panic. Our minds go into overdrive. We get anxious and worried. We start to allow negative thoughts to take over. Before we know it, we become obsessed and we believe we will never have it or accomplish it and we basically give up. We go about our life and just forget about it.
What happens with manifestation is that we focus on something but then we have to give our intentions over and just go about our life. Yes, we should take inspired action. But when we become obsessed, it doesn’t do anyone any good. Sometimes we may get what we desire but we have probably driven ourselves and possibly everyone around us crazy and perhaps lost some other things in the process.
We have to learn to let go. And, believe me, I am preaching to the choir here. I want to see it happen. I want to “make” it happen. We hear this so often. But when we realize that the Universe is conspiring with us to make our dreams come true, to grant us our desires, all we have to do is ask and forget about it. Relax into the knowing that it will happen if/when it is right for us.
One of my coaches explains that it is like an umbilical cord. What happens when the flow is restricted? Yeah, emergency. Not good. Death could occur. The same thing can happen with our dreams. We can want it so badly that we hold tight. We try to control it. We are immensely attached to the outcome. We are killing the very thing we want so badly. Breathe. Loosen your grip and just be. Go about your life. Watch for open doors and opportunities but don’t force them. Align yourself with people and resources that would be helpful but don’t be obsessive. Walk your path. Continue your journey. Allow the right information to be revealed. You may even find that you change your vision along the way. We can think we want one thing but once we have researched a bit more or gain a bit more insight, we shift our desire. If we had forced our way into our first thought, we may have ended up with something that wasn’t as perfect as if we trust the process, be patient, and believe.
So, chill out, don’t get so worked up. You’ll have a better chance at getting the right outcome, be happier and not kill yourself (or anything else) along the way.
Michelle Froedge is a residential Realtor and Principal Broker in the Greater Nashville and Williamson County areas of Tennessee. “Mom” to four-legged fur baby, Tyler, Auntie to Zelamie, she is a vegetarian and sings in her spare time. Michelle has lived in Nashville and Franklin since 1997 and has been selling homes since 2004.