I have a very close woman in my life that says she worries about things so that they don’t happen. Haha – I don’t know if that works but it makes her feel like she’s doing something to help everything go right. A lot of us tend to want to control things. We want to control emotions, situations, relationships, and outcomes. But we may just be causing ourselves more anxiety and stress than if we would just breathe. I’m not saying we don’t move forward and take action steps toward a certain goal, but not get caught up in trying to control things that are out of our control.
I had a life coach a couple of years ago (one of the best things I ever did for myself, by the way). She had me make a list of everything I could control. It was very eye opening. See, apparently, I have trust issues and the need for control goes hand in hand with trust. I realized that I can only control myself. My own thought and my own actions. This is tough for a lot of us to accept and fully understand. When we can finally grasp this, it can help us in every aspect of our lives.
Our country is divided right now. Emotions are heightened and people seem to think they can change people’s thoughts, ideals, and beliefs with a single post on social media. I saw a post that said (I’m paraphrasing), “No matter who wins the election, I’m still going to get up, go to work, and live my life.” Will your daily life be affected? It could. You may have to pay more taxes. Laws may change. We could even lose some freedoms. But look at what getting angry, worrying, and walking around in total negativity will do for you.
The same is true in real estate – you know I couldn’t not bring it around to real estate, right? If you are a Buyer, there are certain things you will do to prepare to buy a house. If you are a Seller, you have a different set of tasks. You hire someone that you have confidence in – then you must let go. You may be anxious and that’s understandable. Just don’t try to manage – or worse – micromanage the people and the process. It will only cause you to be stressed and not to enjoy any of the process. Let me tell you, buying or selling a house and moving is stressful enough on its own. It doesn’t need you making things up in your head and getting over emotional. I’m a highly spiritual person and believe that things don’t happen TO us, they happen FOR us. So, do your tasks, follow up when needed, control yourself and your emotions, and trust that it will work out the way it is supposed to – for you! And remember that worrying isn’t going to change the outcome, it’s just going to cause you, and probably those around you, grief so JUST BREATHE!
Michelle Froedge is a residential Realtor and Principal Broker in the Greater Nashville and Williamson County areas of Tennessee. “Mom” to four-legged fur baby, Tyler, Auntie to Zelamie, she is a vegetarian and sings in her spare time. Michelle has lived in Nashville and Franklin since 1997 and has been selling homes since 2004.