What Are You Scared Of?
We are entering the spooky season. Halloween can be spooky, with all the tales of witches and spells, (which can be very real, btw!) black cats and superstitions. The air is cooling, and there is much more darkness. Spider webs abound and heaviness of air, clothing and food is prevalent. There are haunted houses, Vincent Price, and Jason. Pumpkin spice has been visible since August and that is definitely scary!! As scary as it can be, it can also be a lot of fun. Bonfires, reading a book in front of the fireplace, s’mores, pumpkin carving and chili are at the top of my list.
In our lives, there are many things we could be afraid of. We could be scared about the economy. The state of the earth for our children’s future could scare us. Illness and accidents can be scary. We can be scared of a lot of different social, political, and physical issues. The thing that I see most people being scared of, however, is personal change. Looking deep within ourselves and seeing the depths can be very scary. But, it can also be a lot of fun. I know, it may sound strange to think that seeing our “ugliness” can be fun, but hear me out. First of all, it’s already part of you so you really don’t need to be scared to see it. Secondly, when you face it, you then get to make a decision. You can leave it alone, or make a change. So, just because you see it, doesn’t mean you necessarily have to do anything about it (free will), it just means you are aware of it.
For instance, if you take a gander and notice that you are judgmental, you can choose to work on it – there is a process but I will keep things simple – or you can choose to continue being judgmental. If you choose to make changes, you will see positive impacts in other areas of your life as well. If you choose to ignore it or stay judgmental, likely nothing in your life will change by you doing so. Another example would be, if you admit to yourself that you are in a toxic relationship, you can choose to stay in the relationship and keep living like you’re living, or you can choose to change the dynamic or stay away from the person altogether and likely see drastic changes in many other areas as well.
In this way, doing inner work can be scary but the fun part comes in with the awareness and changes. It’s hard to heal or change things we don’t know about. If we have a silent disease, it’s not going to heal because we aren’t aware it’s even affecting us. If we go to the doctor and it is discovered, we then have a choice. We can choose to do something about it, or not.
When things are just not feeling right, or our gut tells us something needs to be addressed, don’t be scared of it. Allow yourself to dig deep. Be introspective. Meditate. Pray. And then listen. If you are scared of doing it alone, there are many very skilled professionals who can help, including me! Remember, the choice is always yours, being aware is just the first step to recovery, healing, and the other side is a lot of fun!
Michelle Froedge is a residential Realtor and Principal Broker in the Greater Nashville and Williamson County areas of Tennessee. “Mom” to four-legged fur baby, Tyler, Auntie to Zelamie, she is a vegetarian and sings in her spare time. Michelle has lived in Nashville and Franklin since 1997 and has been selling homes since 2004.