Why You’re Afraid of the Dark
In my real estate business clients would tell me what they wanted in a house. I would find it for them and then they would say they didn’t like it. Ummm, what? It checked off all the boxes! The problem was, the boxes they were checking weren’t drawn by them. They were drawn by society. By their family. By their friends. By their nemesis. I got better at asking, “why.” Why did they want the 3-car garage when they were a single person with one car? Why did they want the house in the suburbs when they spent every weekend clubbing, out on the town and checking out the new hot spots downtown? Once they realized that those weren’t actually their desires, we would find exactly the right fit for them and save them from buyer’s remorse.
What boxes are you checking, or trying to check, that aren’t even yours? Do you find yourself working long hours to be the #1 in sales only to be lonely because you’d rather being hanging out with your friends at happy hour than sitting behind a computer? Are you staying at home with the kids when your heart longs to be a career person?
What are you afraid of? Of what other people will think of you? Of what you will uncover if/when you step out and be yourself? What other people think of you is none of your business. Sometimes, once we start looking inside at what we really want, we find things we don’t like. We understand that we have been living someone else’s life for far too long. We see a dark side that we have buried and we’d rather not bring to light.
I speak from experience when I tell you that bringing things into the light begins the healing process. Once that process begins, you will never be the same – in a good way. I lived a life that was not mine for many years. I will never do it again. Once you experience the freedom of being true to yourself, you won’t desire to keep up with the Jones’s. You will stop striving to meet all the goals that society sets for you. You will strive to be a better you. You will be content knowing that no one else walks in your shoes. No one else lives your life. Therefore, no one else should get the final say on who you get to be. You get to be you. So, stop being afraid of the dark and bask in the glorious light of the mirror. I promise, anything you lose by doing so, will pale in comparison to everything you will gain.
Light and Love. m.
Michelle Froedge is a residential Realtor and Principal Broker in the Greater Nashville and Williamson County areas of Tennessee. “Mom” to four-legged fur baby, Tyler, Auntie to Zelamie, she is a vegetarian and sings in her spare time. Michelle has lived in Nashville and Franklin since 1997 and has been selling homes since 2004.